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Am I a lesbian?
A gentle quiz that looks at three things: your attraction to women, your attraction to men, and whether comphet might be muddying the picture.
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If you are asking “am I a lesbian?”, you are in very good company. Lots of women only start wondering in their twenties, thirties or later, often after years of assuming they were straight because nobody offered another option.
Signs people often notice
- Your “friend crushes” on women feel more intense than your crushes on men ever did.
- You like the idea of a boyfriend more than any real boyfriend.
- Sapphic love stories make your chest ache in a very specific way.
- Picturing a future with a woman feels calm, or exciting, or like coming home.
None of these are proof, and you do not need proof. They are just things worth noticing. The quiz turns them into gentle questions and reflects your answers back. Want a lighter quiz first? Try the lesbian types test.
Frequently asked questions
Can a quiz tell me if I'm a lesbian?
No quiz can decide that for you, and this one does not try. It reflects the patterns in your answers (how you feel about women, how you feel about men, and whether some of that might be comphet) so you can look at them with a little more clarity.
What is comphet?
Comphet is short for compulsory heterosexuality: the pressure to assume you are straight because that is the default script. Many lesbians describe years of borrowed crushes on boys before realizing their real feelings were about women. Read the full guide: what is comphet.
I have liked men before. Can I still be a lesbian?
Yes, many lesbians have dated or even felt drawn to men in the past, often because of comphet. Others realize they are bi or pan. Your past does not cancel your present. What matters is what feels true now.
Is my quiz data private?
Completely. The quiz runs in your browser, nothing is sent to a server, and there is no sign-up. Your result only exists in your own link.
What should I do after the quiz?
Nothing, if you do not want to. If you want to keep exploring, read how to know if you're a lesbian, watch some sapphic films, or talk to someone you trust. There is no deadline for figuring yourself out.