The library
Guides for sapphic life
Plain-talking, carefully checked reads on identity, dating, culture and history. Written for the questions you actually google at 2am.
Identity
Identity · 5 min
What Is Comphet? Compulsory Heterosexuality, Explained
Comphet, short for compulsory heterosexuality, is the idea that society pushes women toward attraction to men so strongly that many assume they are straight by default.
Identity · 5 min
How to Know If You're a Lesbian
There is no test that proves you are a lesbian, but reflecting on who you feel drawn to, and why, can help you find a word that fits.
Identity · 5 min
Lesbian vs Sapphic vs WLW vs Queer vs Bi: What's the Difference?
Lesbian, sapphic, WLW, queer and bi overlap but are not the same: lesbian is the most specific, while sapphic, WLW and queer are broader umbrella words.
Identity · 5 min
Coming out as a lesbian: a practical, kind guide
A practical guide to coming out as a lesbian safely, on your own timeline, with sample words and advice for every kind of reaction.
Dating
Dating · 5 min
How to Tell If a Girl Likes You (When You're a Girl Too)
Between women, flirting and friendship can look almost identical, so the surest way to know if she likes you is to notice patterns and then ask kindly.
Dating · 5 min
Lesbian first date ideas: 24 cute dates for every vibe
Two dozen lesbian first date ideas grouped by vibe, with etiquette on who asks and who pays, and safety tips for meeting someone from an app.
Culture
Culture · 5 min
Butch vs Femme: Meaning, History and Everything In Between
Butch and femme are lesbian identities about presentation and energy, with roots in mid 1900s working-class bar culture and a wide spectrum in between.
Culture · 5 min
The best sapphic books to read next
A curated list of 28 sapphic books across romance, literary classics, fantasy and memoir, each with a short spoiler free pitch.
Culture · 5 min
The best lesbian and sapphic movies
A curated list of 26 lesbian and sapphic films across romance, drama, comedy, genre and classics, each with a short spoiler free pitch.